The other day I was driving to Irvine CA and I was listening to Dennis Prager, someone whom I have listened to, enjoyed and respected for many years. He had a caller who was a recovering hedonist. The caller spoke about him learning the difference between happiness and pleasure, and that chasing pleasure was a long and destructive path to take. Always needing more to get the same level of pleasure.
This struck a chord in that I am pleasure driven but also I think I understand what makes me happy. Another radio personality who brought home to me what happiness is about, Dr. David Viscott said that. “to be happy we must discover our gift and give it a way freely”
This is what I try to do in my life and it brings me happiness. I am lucky in that I get pleasure from healthy pursuits in most cases. I do not do drugs, gamble, or get drunk. I get excitement from telling jokes, which sometimes people get, from hitting tennis and golf balls and from showing off my art. These all supply adrenalin rushes.
I get my happiness by using my analysis skills, my developed ability to read minds and my age to help people by asking the right questions. I also use my technical, business and social skills to help others.
What I get in return is the greatest gift possible, the fact that they often look to me when they have a problem and that makes me feel worthwhile. That in essence what Dr. Viscott was getting at.
So what is the point of this post. The point is to raise the awareness of the difference between pleasure and happiness and to have you all ask yourself what are you seeking and does that affect whether you are finding happiness or are you spiraling downward seeking pleasure at the cost of your self worth.
I have attached a host of Google posts I gathered on this subject.
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Happiness Versus Pleasure
by Armen Hareyan – in 86 Google+ circles – More by Armen HareyanOct 3, 2004 – We are a pleasure seeking society. Most of us spend our energy seeking pleasure and avoiding pain. We hope that by doing this, we will feel …
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A Happiness Tip From Aristotle | Psychology Today
by karen salmansohn – in 136 Google+ circles – More by karen salmansohnA Happiness Tip From Aristotle. Do you know the difference between pleasure vs
. happiness? Published on February 7, 2010 by Karen Salmansohn in …
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Happiness: Happiness Versus Pleasure
www.innerbonding.com › … › Happiness, Healing, Self-Esteem
Dec 31, 2006 – We are a pleasure seeking society, yet this is not leading to happiness. Discover the secret to achieving the deep and abiding happiness that …